The Definitive How-To Guide For Spanking

I love spanking and you do, too. I have received countless emails of people who asked for my help, my support, my tips- many out there would like to integrate spanking in their marriages, but they fear it will be too difficult, or too problematic, especially men (many of my readers are men, and I receive many emails from them). This is why I decided to put together the experiences I have made, so you can easily start with domestic discipline, or at least give it a shot. Trust me, so many women out there love getting spanked, but they would never openly talk about it.

Why write a guide?

Here are two representative quotes on this: (you can find them here (click on the link)):

SpankMeVB (also blogs at ):

I’m youngish (35) and still single. One of my challenges in finding the right man to spend my life with is that I CAN’T be in a longterm, stable relationship with a man who won’t spank me and/or whom I can’t trust and respect enough to let him. Most men really don’t get it. I’ve had so many bad experiences with requesting this and winding up with either being hit just a couple of times but ridiculously hard or in a dangerous spot, or just a wimpy, quick little series of love pats. It seems they also think that one hard swat that “leaves a handprint” is a big deal. They don’t get the psychological or emotional aspect at all.

Jennifer commented as well. She feels unsatisfied because of a lack of punishment. Her comment is another example of why spanking is great for some women.

My fiance doesn’t really get into any of the d/s relationship it sucks. When I wasnwith my baby father he did a lot of punishing and it made me feel loved and protected.

That’s why I wrote The Definitive How-To Guide For Spanking, the how-to book for domestic discipline and Spanking relationships. Rather than telling you some irrelevant stories, the How-To Guide For Spanking teaches you how to approach your wife and tell her what you want, and how to begin a successful Domestic Discipline relationship. You will live life on your own terms, and your lives will improve. Likewise, wife can use the tips on how to convince their husband to spank them. An entire chapter is dedicated to this.

story watch the game and some spankings

[That’s not me, but could be me.]

My blog has been read by hundred thousands of people. Although I started blogging only a year ago, I was already in a Domestic Discipline marriage for a long time before that.

The principles in the How-To Guide For Spanking are the ones my husband and I applied for us. By following them, you will improve your sex life and relationship, have a more satisfied wife, and make your relationship much stronger – I speak from experience here, because I was very unsatisfied, unstable, and not calm when we did not have Domestic Discipline and regular spankings.

Both Domestic Discipline and Spanking are things which are extremely difficult to explain. There is a whole lot of literature on the internet, but some of it is written by weird people, some others only focus on the sex stuff, and others … well let’s not talk about it. I wrote this book as a collection of my own thoughts, and then, after a while, gradually expanded it. It’s only due to the numerous questions I have received (especially per email) why I decided to expand my notes into a whole book.

A did a whole of internet research. Countless hours of searches on the net and wasted time.

Even more so, you will encounter lots of discussions in real life, if you choose to talk about Spanking. Here’s an example for such a discussion:


Don’t be unprepared – use the research I have done.

This guide will save you the time which I wasted while researching Domestic Discipline and Spanking.

No more having unsatisfied evenings. Domestic discipline helps your wife to regain her focus and deep down, most women love it – much more than they would admit. Only the internet makes it possible.

There are chapters on the lifestyle and introducing it, important definitions, the reflection what Domestic submission is (which serves an argumentation help), a detailed descriptions of the wishes of your wife, living life in the lifestyle, a detailed description of tools, and finally the last chapter on the life in such a relationship. Each chapter contains valuable tips and habits that can be applied to your life.

For example, a guide of how to find out what exactly your wife wants. How you talk to her will be very important when slowly introducing her in the lifestyle. It’s 150 pages in Word – in my opinion, a lot.

Trust me, you will love it.

Even if you don’t want to go in domestic discipline, I have added valuable points in the end, such as alternatives to Spanking. Domestic discipline and regular Spanking is a great, liberating thing, when done correctly.

You will live that Spanking life.

Find out how to live life on your terms by applying the tips in the How-To Guide for Spanking to your life today.


Here’s a testimonial from

I just learned about the DD lifestyle from your blog in trying to do some research to help my marriage. I knew instantly this was for me, and devoured ever word on your blog, and then the book. Thank you so much for taking the time to lay it all out, and from so many points of view. I think I’ve found my true self, and can’t wait to get started in learning how to be a better wife!

Another comment made by D:

Bought the guideand now I’m trying to plan how I will tell him I need weekly spankings. He is much more vanilla and not very dominant, so it will be a challenge. I so appreciate how much your guide covers and explains.

I put this guide together exactly because of this. I want to help more women and men to achieve satisfaction in their lives – and honestly, almost every email confirms exactly this. So, until today, I can say, that my blog and my guide as the complete overview of Spanking have helped many people – and I will help more.

If you have any thoughts, write me a comment  or send me an email and I’ll get back at you!



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  6. This guide – I have purchased it recently – is a solid book, given the low price. I was wondering, however, whether you are religious or not, because from what I read your husband seems to be.


      • Ok so I’ve always liked the idea of being over my husband’s knee..not sure if I like the whole dd thing though.maybe I’m confused on all if this. He doesn’t want to hurt me but I like the experience..can you please help me understand the difference? Recently we used a paddle for the first kinda scared him cause of course bruises were to I get him to understand I liked it but I’m ok with it?


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