Bringing up spanking in a relationship… Readers Speak up.

Here’s a topic we touched on a while back, but really didn’t explore in great detail… Annnd since Mark is away & I have to occupy my mind with something… *g* I was hoping some of you articulate and brilliant readers would like to tackle some of the questions I get in e-mails….. Remember, these are real questions that actual people really want to get answers for. So, would you like to share your insights? If anyone has other questions along this vein of discussion to add, feel free…

Some Questions for Readers

1. How did you bring up spanking with your partner?
2. What finally made it possible?
3. What strategies did you use when you told him/her (letters, internet posts printed out for him, just talking)?
4. What would you do differently if you had it to do over?
5. How did it go?
6. Are there things you still haven’t shared fully? (if yes, what & why? *weg*)

(& wouldn’t it be cool if we have a really long in depth discussion that helped someone who is working up their own nerve right now?)

Thanks in advance for participating.

Also, since you already are here  🙂 I put a very comprehensive How-To together, for all the people out there who want to get in domestic discipline…

There are chapters on the lifestyle and introducing it, living life in the lifestyle, a detailed description of tools, and much more… Each chapter contains valuable tips and habits that you can apply to your life. I wrote this book because there are no such books out there (!), and … we have developed our relationship with Domestic Discipline so far, that I now consider myself as an expert 🙂

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Love,

Constance

2 thoughts on “Bringing up spanking in a relationship… Readers Speak up.

  1. I brought it up with tons of embarrassment, couldn’t look him in the eye. The emabrissment is still not gone but it’s better. The reason I finally brought it up was the NEED. I need DD in my life to become the person I want to be, whatever need I have to be spanked, & hopefully it will help the relationship. We are still not fully there. He has only now become semi-comfortable spanking me outside a bedroom setting. We are now working on him initiating it, rather than my having to bring it up. He has come a long way from “I could never spank you”. He is still hesitant and I am doing everything I can to show him it is ok & this is what I want. I am hoping that someday he will LET himself become the true HoH. He does enjoy what he allows himself now so I am optomistic. I brought it up through letters & printed out some information & comments I found online for him. I couldn’t even be in the same room as he read them. There are still some things I can’t address except through text. I am upfront with him and tell him ahead of time if it’s a subject I can’t say to his face. If I could change anything I would wait until I was less embarrassed. I think my shame at wanting to be spanked made him hesitate and question if it is really ok more than if I could have just stated my desires. His reaction was supportive if puzzled. It was hard for him to grasp that I wanted this & hard for him to overcome being taught that you never hit a woman in any way, ever. I am incredibly lucky that he never shamed me and has help me work through some of my shame on the subject. I have read every DD book (including yours Constance) and website I can find & am now looking at more obscure books and sites to explain why I have such a NEED for discipine. I still haven’t found it & if anyone has any ideas I would love to hear them. I still have not gotten into any other possible areas of Discipline. He is having a hard enough time getting his mind around my wanting to be spanked & I don’t want to scare him or for him to decide I am crazy. There is time…

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    • Chelsea, soory I just saw this – great comment and thank you so much!
      The need? Sorry I can’t even explain mine… would be interesting !
      But no, you’re not crazy- my blog has about 400 daily readers, it would mean many people out there are crazy 😉

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