- Loving, attentive and aware of each other’s needs & feelings.
- Planned and controlled use of corporal consequence.
- Wife is physically and emotionally ‘wired’ to desire spanking.
- Wife feels husband is engaged and committed to their unity.
- Wife feels valued and worthy.
- Wife feels fearful, degraded, demoralized, lonely.
- Event is impulsive, explosive (she may anticipate it is possible but often does not).
- Wife’s desires and needs are not a factor in the husband’s choice of consequence.
- Wife feels alienated from her husband.
- Open discussion of issues occurs before physical consequence applied.
- Spanking occurs as an agreed upon consequence.
- Focus is on her perceptions of her actions and their impact on the relationship.
- The goal is resolution of conflict and closure.
- Issues at stake are not open for discussion.
- Focus is on one side, which is his perceptions of her failures and shortcomings.
- After the fact husband may try to convince wife he was justified.
- Strain predominates as issues are created by his actions rather than resolved.
|Motivation of Husband
- Applies a consequence specifically requested (in earlier discussions) by the wife
- Addresses only issues agreed on as punishable
- Clear the slate and help her resolve feelings of guilt.
- Bonding, cuddling and sometimes sex after the spanking.
- Lashes out in anger
- Coerce the wife to see or do things his way
- Punish the wife for wrongs done “to” him.
- Force the outcome he wants which may include sex
- Open hand, strap, paddle, switch or cane used on bare or covered buttocks and occasionally upper thighs.
- Skin of the bottom is reddened, occasionally bruised.
- Fist, hand, foot or other objects used to batter whole body
- Wife may be physically pushed or thrown into other objects (walls, furniture etc.)
- Deep soft tissue, bone and organ injury common.
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