How I started making my husband more horny

Personally, I have a really high sex drive. I have been married for four years now. I love to tease my husband and to seduce him, but much more I love being seduced. And yes, sometimes love to be not even seduced, but just being taken. Without a word, just getting taken.

However my partner is less interested and has been so even when we started going out.  He was defintevly not a pushy-kind of type (that’s what I initially really liked!). We had been dating for three months before we had sex for the first time. For him it was ok to have sex 1-3 times a week. He wasn’t even horny when returning from a business trip. Although I occasionally try to get things rolling, I found he didn’t like that too much either. I definitively did not want to pressure him, so I needed to avoid creating any feelings like this.

(By the way, I am definitively attractive, I continue a very competitive training regimen 😉 )

I tried coping with this with two strategies.

The first was subduing any thoughts of sex. This works only shortly and often really hurts my mood. For example, when I am close to ovulating I can’t take it. I need someone inside me. I need him. I need sperm. It is a really insupportable craving which needs to be satisfied. While I didn’t want to badger him, I also needed my own demands to be fulfilled. Obviously this whole situation made me a little incomfortable, as I really did not feel feminine when pushing him for sex, or when subduing my thoughts.

Still, the lack of fulfilment drove me sometimes crazzzyyyyy…

That comes close to me in the first year of our marriage…

Therefore I chose a new method. I talked to some (female) friends of mine and how they coped with similar situations. How could I get him to move? The advice was, mostly, that I should do sexy things but not be putting it on the table.For example, I regularly started out giving him massages, or appreciating his work he did for us. When he came home, I fixed him a drink and had a meal prepared. I did all this without wanting anything from him as reciprocation.

Shortly after I saw that it worked, I started making things more sexual. For example, I found that caressing his crotch is good for him and he just likes it, even though he is not in the mood to have sex. Sometimes, maybe every third or fourth evening, it gets pretty hard and we can continue 🙂 .

And in the other times, I just rub other parts of his body or give him a little massage. By doing so I already achieved to increase our frequency.

At the same time, in the morning, I started in the day by blowing him. The more I did, the more I liked it, too! Even when he’s asleep, he gets hard pretty fast and really likes it to wake up like this. When he comes, I offer him to blast in my face or on my body… when we did this for the first time, it was really great!

So this was the intermediary status in the first year of our marriage. I have left out some details which I will take about at some other time – trust me, it wasn’t _that_ easy to get him there…However,a while after this we got into something much much more spicier- in the last years, our marriage has become absolutely fantastic … more about this in the next posts 🙂


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6 thoughts on “How I started making my husband more horny

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  3. Thank you! I’ve just learned about DD a week ago and I’ve been damn near insatiable since. I’ve initiated sex about 5 times and him 0. This is a huge 180 from where we were. I’ve always liked to be spanked and dom’d during sex, but DD is what I crave and need. I’ve told him, and we have some limitations on acting on it, but I’m anticipating when the time is right. In the meantime I will quit pouncing him and focus on just letting him know what he means to me in all those loving ways you mentioned so he has a chance to take charge. I just hope he can go through with it when it’s time for my first correction!

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  4. Hi. We are a bit older than you, and have just started learning, readying, etc about this life style. My dear hubby is mid-50’s and just having, issues. A lot of it is work stress, and to be honest, I haven’t always been so pleasant at home with a busy schedule myself and 5 kids.
    Now the kids are grown and gone, and we are learning some new things.
    This is just an area he has struggled with for a couple of years now. I have been trying to serve him more at home, make him the king of his castle. I have noticed a small change. I wondered if they were connected.
    Starting tonight, I am adding a massage. A full body massage, with no expectations, I just want to relax him and reduce his stress!


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